I’m Not Like Other Girls.


“I’m not like
other girls, you know?”
she tilts her head back
and smiles strangely at me
like she’s inviting me in
on a little secret she’s been waiting to tell me
“I’m different.”

When I ask her
exactly what does she mean by that
she shrugs
rolling her shoulders up and down
“just that -
I’m just not like the rest.
I’m smart.
I actually eat
I don’t wear make up -
I’m just not like them.”

So you’re saying
every other girl is stupid
and every other girl never eats
and every other girl wears make up
every other girl is a mile high billboard
six feet tall
with photoshopped skin
and a waist roughly the size of your ankle.

You see one of these girls in the mall
and you turn your nose up at them
sneering – how silly they are
how stereotypical they are
I’m not like them
I’m better than them.

But in reality
other girls don’t actually exist
other girls is something
told to us
from the day we first learned
that pink was our color
and make up was our thing
and our boyfriends are supposed to hold our purses
and wait for us outside.

'Other girls'
much like Snow White
and much like Cinderella
is a bed time story
told to you every single second
of every single day;
you grew up
learning to hate every other girl
you grew up
on the idea that what has been
assigned to your gender -
by a society
and a media
that wants to make money off of you -
is something to be sneered at
you grew up
on the notion that pretty and thin
are synonymous with stupid and vapid

But isn’t that they want us to be?
Isn’t that what they’ve been telling us to be?
Because if we’re not pretty and thin
then we’re not worth anyone’s time
but then if we are pretty and thin
we’re turned into a joke.

A joke – like
a 23 year old woman
who’s been producing and writing
her own music since she was sixteen years old
being reduced to nothing more
than the sum of her boyfriends
a joke – like
a 22 year old man
who’s been producing and writing
his own music since he was sixteen years old
who is applauded and respected
and even that
boils down to other girls -
other girls date your favorite boy band member
other girls are pretty and thin
other girls are ‘sluts.’

Other girls are the enemy
pretty girls are the enemy
because we’ve been taught that pretty girls
get every thing so much easier
but this is only true
in the sense that they get
the burdens that we all must face
handed to them on a silver platter
instead of on a wooden plank
and is it so much better
after all?

What is it that you hate so much
about your own gender
that compels you to separate yourself
and claim yourself as above them?
Don’t you see that when you divide us into ranks
we create an enemy on the inside
while the real enemy
gets stronger?

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